{"id":5470,"date":"2024-05-03T13:20:00","date_gmt":"2024-05-03T13:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cafe-mom-staging.local\/i-dont-love-being-pregnant-but-im-a-good-mom\/"},"modified":"2024-09-03T10:40:36","modified_gmt":"2024-09-03T10:40:36","slug":"i-dont-love-being-pregnant-but-im-a-good-mom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cafemom.com\/parenting\/i-dont-love-being-pregnant-but-im-a-good-mom","title":{"rendered":"Hating the Journey, But Loving the Destination: A Lesson in Mothering"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"I am never<\/em> doing this again.\" My husband made sympathetic noises over the phone as I retched into the bushes. I was supposed to be driving to work but had to pull over to throw up<\/a>. Again. <\/p>

I was 24 weeks pregnant<\/a> with my second child and it was not going well. The pregnancy had come as a surprise and was instantly stressful. Not only was it unexpected, I discovered I was pregnant while in the middle of passing a kidney stone (0 out of 10 stars, don’t recommend). <\/p>

Within a few days, the \"morning sickness\" kicked in and proceeded to fully kick my butt. Morning sickness<\/a>, which had been unpleasant but manageable with my first pregnancy, became a menace. I was sick all the time<\/em> in a way that all the Zofran in the world couldn't touch. <\/p>

In addition to the daily barfing, there were other delights in store for me on my second turn on the gestational roller coaster. I also had pregnancy-induced carpal tunnel syndrome (a challenge for someone who spends most of the day writing), pregnancy-induced sciatica, a cracked rib when I got a nasty upper respiratory virus that I couldn’t shake (or take any good medicine for, because: super pregnant), and intermittent spotting that made me worry that I was going to lose the baby. <\/p>

On top of all that, I had an energetic 4-year-old to keep up with, an insanely busy job, and was dealing with one of the roughest rough patches<\/a> in my normally stable marriage. <\/p>

More from CafeMom:<\/strong> 15 Moms on Why They Love Being a Girl Mom<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“I am never doing this again.” My husband made sympathetic noises over the phone as I retched into the bushes. I was supposed to be driving to work but had to pull over to throw up. Again. I was 24 weeks pregnant with my second child and it was not going well. 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